In writing this book, our aim was to get to the heart marriage: how we so often can be both content with, and confounded by, our partners.
To that end, we also asked each other those same tough questions.
Our answers to those questions and more are here, in Marriage Confidential. By blending experience, humor, and advice in the following 102 essays, we believe you’ll find them enjoyable, insightful and thought provoking.
Many of the same questions were asked of our readers on Mars Venus and Mars Venus Redbook online polls. The results of these polls, shown throughout this book, also support the answers you see here.
The three best things we can share as a couple are our love, laughter and tears. We share all of that with you in the hope that you will share the same with each other.
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Table of Contents
I: Viva la Difference
1. Is a woman initially attracted to a man’s looks? - HE
2. Are most men initially attracted to a woman's looks, or is it something more? - She
3. What do women do on "girls’ night out?” - He
4. What do men do on "boys’ night out?" - She
5. Is there a way to decode Womanspeak? - He
6. Is there a way to decode Manspeak? - She
7. Why do women love to shop? - He
8. Why are some guys so obsessed with sports? - She
9. Why are some women obsessed with their homes? - He
10. Why don’t most husbands offer to help their wives instead of waiting to be asked? - She
11. Why do women cry at movies? - He
12. Why are some guys so enthralled with porn? - She
13. Why do some women always claim to have "nothing to wear…"? - He
14. Why do some men say they "need space" when they should talk things out instead? - She
15. Why do women always feel they have to play matchmaker for their single friends? - He
16. Why do guys forget Valentine’s Day and other important dates? - She
17. Why do some women feel the constant need to hear "I love you" from their husbands? - He
18. Why is it so hard for some men to say, "I love you" to their wives, let alone touch their wives in public? - She
19. Do men talk to each other about their relationships? - She
20. Does my wife miss being single? - He
21. Does my husband miss being single? - She
22. Are most wives happy in their marriages? - He
23. Are most husbands happy in their marriages? - She
24. Do women fantasize about other men? - He
25. Do men fantasize about other women? - She
26. Why are some wives sensitive about their husbands' flirting? - He
27. Why would a married man flirt, let alone flirt in front of his wife? - She
28. When will a woman lie to her husband? - He
29. What secrets do husbands keep from their wives? - She
30. Do wives know when their husbands lie to them? - He
31. Do men know when their wives are lying to them? - She
32. Do women view affairs differently than men? - He
33. When do men have affairs? - She
35. When do women have affairs? - He
35. Can a husband forgive his wife for cheating? - She
36. Do wives ever forgive their husbands for cheating? - He
37. Why would a married man explore Internet relationships? - She
38. What is the hardest thing about being a woman? - He
39. What is the hardest thing about being a man? - She
40. Why is marriage so important to women? - He
41. Do men want children, or are they just agreeing with their wives that it's time to start a family? - She
42. Why are weddings such a big deal to women? - He
43. Are most men scared on their wedding days? - She
44. When a woman is pregnant and uncomfortable, does she want to blame her husband for getting her that way? - He
45. What is the worst part of pregnancy for a husband? - She
46. Why are some women so afraid of making mistakes with their children? - He
47. Why isn’t my husband’s parenting style in sync with mine? - She
48. Why do some wives resent their husbands for taking a back seat in parenting? - He
49. When does a man’s job become more important to him than his family? - She
50. Why would some moms rather work than stay home? - He
51. Just how tough is it for guys to deal with their fathers-in-law? - She
52. What do most women really think of their in-laws? - He
53. How does my husband feel about his mother-in-law? - She
54. What can I do to keep peace between my wife and my parents? - He
55. Why do some widowers remarry, and some don’t? - She
56. Are there times when a woman compares her husband to her father—in good ways, bad ways, or both? - He
57. What is the greatest challenge in being a husband and father? - She
58. What is the greatest challenge in being a wife and mother? - He
IV: Sex & Romance
59. Do most men consider themselves sexy? - She
60. Do most women enjoy sex? - He
61. What do men really think of sex? - She
62. Does a woman fake an orgasm very often? - He
63. Why are men so sensitive about sexual performance? - She
64. Does a man’s penis size matter to a woman? - He
65. Why are men so concerned with their penis size? - She
66. How do women feel about masturbation? - He
67. Does breast size matter to men? - She
68. Do women enjoy giving blow jobs? - He
69. Why do most men love blow jobs? - She
70. Do women really like receiving oral sex? - He
71. Why don’t men feel the same about giving oral sex as they do about getting it? - She
72. What would make my wife quit enjoying sex? - He
73. Is romance important to men, too? - She
74. Why is romance so important to most women? - He
75. Why are most men less romantic after marriage? - She
76. Why is my wife always "too tired" for sex? - He
77. What are bedroom turnoffs for men? - She
78. What are mood killers for women? - He
79. What makes a woman a great lover? - She
80. What makes a man a great lover? - He
81. How can I put my husband in the mood for love? - She
82. How can I put my wife in the mood for love? - He
V: Confidentially Speaking
83. Do most men feel the same about their wives after their first year of marriage? - She
84. Does my wife ever regret our marriage? - He
85. What are things a wife should never tease her husband about? - She
86. What are some things a man should never tease his wife about? - He
87. Why do some men find it hard to say "I’m sorry"? - She
88. Why do some women find it hard to say "I'm sorry"? - He
89. Why does a wife’s PMS scare her husband? - She
90. Why do some wives find it uncomfortable for their husbands to have women friends? - He
91. Can a married man truly be "just friends" with a woman? - She
92. What would my wife like to change about me? - He
93. What is a woman’s most exasperating trait? - She
94. Why would a woman forget to look her best for her husband? - He
95. Would a man still love his wife if she lost her looks? - She
96. Why do women feel they have to nag to be heard? - He
97. Why do I argue with my husband? - She
98. How do I talk to her when she is angry? - He
99. What is the best way to get my husband to open up? - She
100.Why will my wife assume I can read her mind? - He
101. What are five things women should know about their husbands? - She
102. What are five things men should know about their wives? - He
